Friday, 21 September 2018

Dear year eleven (honest version)

You've made it. You've somehow managed to survive four years of secondary school and the end is in sight. Firstly, I'd just like to say a massive well done. I feel your pain.

If your September has been the same as mine was last year, your teachers are telling you to start revising. Again, if you're anything like me, don't do it. Your real exams will mostly start in May. You'll have mock exams soon, but these aren't in any way an indication of how you are going to perform in the real ones. Turn up to all your lessons (all of them!), listen, take notes, do your homework and turn up to intervention when they ask you to. At this point in the year, that's all you can do! Work on keeping yourself healthy and cultivating friendships. Trust me, that's the important stuff!

Your teachers are probably starting to seem very stressed, but trust me, you haven't seen stress until you've seen them once your exams have started. They only want what's best for you, and they only want what's best for you because it reflects well on them (I'm kidding, Geez) but don't take everything they say as gospel. They are only people, the same as the rest of us. Sometimes certain teachers like to pretend that they're not, but they are!! Their advice is not always the best, and you just need to keep doing you. 

The same goes for your friends. They're not perfect, they will let you down, but they will also make this year a little more bearable. 

*disclaimer: I wasn't a perfect student. At all. There are quite a lot of teachers who will back me up on that haha. I didn't spend all my time revising, but I did always do my homework, turn up to intervention and give it my best. I managed to pass all my exams whilst holding down a part-time job, volunteering, seeing my friends & family, going out after school and working through a pretty hefty application process for my apprenticeship. School does not need to be your life. I'm giving you that advice knowing full well that I'm even less of a favourite with my old teachers :))

Hang on in there 
-Marti xxx

Friday, 7 September 2018

Iron sharpens iron

Sometimes it can take a really long time to find the right people
and other times it doesn't. 

It can be really hard to feel like you're in a place where nobody has the same morals as you or that you have nobody pouring into you. Our instinct is to find people who love us and who we can grow with but sometimes these people don't appear out of nowhere. This is something that I think a lot of us have felt, and it really isn't nice. 

This post has been inspired by a talk I heard on the issues of our generation. One (of many things) that stuck was the way she described us as being disciples of the people we follow on social media. It's honestly one of the truest things I've ever heard. The people we 'follow' have such an impact on our lives, and a lot of the time we don't even notice. 

Whether you're at school, work, college, or Pluto, here are the top three things to look for in friends made of iron:

  1. Non-judgment: You want your friends to love you unconditionally, and if they judge you based on your mistakes, they're not the friends that want to see you grow.
  2. Honesty: Too many times people hide how they really feel and what they really think. If your friends are honest with you, both positively and negatively, you're setting yourself up for a relationship of growth.
  3. Trust: Being honest requires a lot of vulnerability, so it's important to know that your friend values you enough to make you feel safe when you open up.
What are your top three things to look for in a friendship/fellowship? 

Lots of love,
Marti xxx