Friday, 29 December 2017

Dear 2018, please kick ass

This year has been one of the most influential years of my life. To say it has been bad would be unfair, but to say it has been perfect would be untruthful. Influential seems a fair judgement.

It was the year of many adventures, ranging from pretending to be a witch in Boscastle to getting lost in a lingerie store in Reykjavik. It was the year of broken friendships, kisses and uneven French braids. It was the year I learnt what it meant to hurt, to love and to be afraid. It was the year I fell in love with the girl in the mirror, but feared the power of that statement also. 

What am I hoping for from 2018? I'm really not too sure.

I'm hoping to learn, to grow and to love endlessly. What exactly that means, I'm not too sure. I'm hoping for happiness, but with that I expect to hurt as well. 

I have one resolution for the new year, and that is to accept that in that moment, I am enough. I will never be perfect, and no amount of resolutions will ever change that. I do not need to change, simply continue to love, to learn and to grow. 

I wish the same for you.
All my love,
Marti :)


Friday, 22 December 2017

Things I'm grateful for this Christmas

  1. Paper crowns and fortune fish
  2. Snowy mornings of absolute bliss
  3. Button up skirts and wooly tights
  4. Sunset skies and darkened nights 
  5. Tingly fingers and frozen toes
  6. The happy days forgetting the lows.
Wishing you a happy and safe Christmas!
Lots of love, 
Marti xx

Friday, 8 December 2017

'Triggered' is not the word

triggered
ˈtrɪɡəd/
adjective
  1. (of a mechanism) activated by a trigger.

    "a triggered alarm"
    • (of a response) caused by particular action, process, or situation.

      "a triggered memory of his childhood

  2. Person 1: "Stop clicking your pen."
  3. Person 2: "Alright, stop getting so triggered!"

Call it being annoyed. Call it being irritated. Call it being distracted. But do not- and I repeat do not call it being triggered

It's just another one of those words that's become so popular for the complete wrong reason. I find it ridiculous that people are still saying things like "I'm so OCD about things being messy" or "Those lines are giving me Autism". It's just wrong on so many levels.

I think the issue is that people are unaware of the severity of their actual meanings. The examples I gave are both diagnostic mental disorders that people have to live with on a day to day basis. Having OCD is not just liking to have things tidy, it's recurring, obsessive thoughts that haunt you. Similarly, you can't catch Autism like- what?!

I think I find the popularity of the word triggered to be the worst because there are people out there who do have triggers. Lots of them. Your unnecessary remarks and poking fun at related issues are only adding to the stigma and making people feel uncomfortable.

In short: just be considerate. I completely understand that it's difficult to always think over your actions, but if just a few more people learnt to bite their tongue, the world might be just that bit of a nicer place.

Linked below is a video I found on YouTube that inspired my interest for this topic. Make sure to check it out and let me know your thoughts in the comments or by email.
Lots and lots of love,
Marti xxx

Friday, 1 December 2017

Flawed


A little poem I wrote about how we're all such perfect, imperfect individuals. 

I can't do everything right,
I know it may come as a fright.
I won't always be there-
It's quite the scare.
I can't do everything right.

-Marti 
xxx