Friday, 28 April 2017

Being Gay in a Heterosexual Society | An Interview with Ella

1.       Heya Ella! Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my questions and being so open! Firstly, would you mind telling me a little bit about yourself? For example: what are your passions and interests?

My interests are playing video games, photography, writing, drawing and reading.

2.      Do you think that labels are necessary when it comes to sexual orientation? Are they restrictive or do they provide comfort and security?

I think labels can be restrictive depending on the person really. Some people like that they can name their sexual orientation and be able to tell others exactly and others feel freer without labelling. I label myself because I like be able to explain to others easily what exactly my sexuality is.

3.      When did you realise that you weren’t heterosexual? Was it something you learnt as you got older or something you’ve always known?

It's a bit of both really. I had small crushes on other girls when I was younger but I wasn't bothered about it. I was about ten when I started questioning and then a year later I realised properly.

4.      Are there ever times that you find it difficult to accept your feelings towards other people? Does society ever make you feel pressured into acting and behaving a certain way?

There have been times where I've thought being straight would be easier but I've been raised so that I know that homosexuality isn't wrong so I just accepted myself.

5.      Have you ever experienced discrimination or prejudice based on your sexuality? Do you think that it’s because we live in a society where straight people are favoured that people think it’s acceptable to belittle people who don’t fall into this category?

I have faced discrimination from people who see it as a joke. Like when someone asked me if I had a girlfriend in a very mocking tone to make fun out of me. I've also heard some girls say that they don't want me to have a crush on them.

6.      How does it make you feel to know that in some parts of the world, it’s still illegal to marry as a same sex couple?

I think it's very upsetting to be honest that people are still against it but hopefully there's going to a rise in the future of people supporting same sex marriage, especially for Australia!

7.      Is there anybody who has helped you in any way that deserves any recognition? Whether that be simply being a friend who has stood up for you or a public figure who has fought for your rights?

Well, I look up to celebrities like Ellen Page because I find it amazing that they're proud of who they are and they stick up for lgbt rights in America.

8.      Finally, do you have any advice to give to anybody reading who is either questioning their sexual preference or considering ‘coming out’?

Well, for someone who's questioning their sexual orientation, my advice would be just to wait, be patient and be proud of themselves no matter what and for anyone who's thinking of coming out, make sure you're in a safe place and your parents are accepting. If not, maybe move in with an accepting friend or extended family if you feel you are in danger or wait until you move out.

Again, thank you so much for giving me this opportunity Ella, I wish you all the best! :)

Health and happiness,
Marti xxx

Friday, 21 April 2017

Human & Horse

Just some pictures of the ponies in Iceland :)

Health and happiness,
Marti xx

Friday, 14 April 2017

My weekend in Reykjavik

“Not all those who wander are lost.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

Health and happiness,
Marti xxx

Friday, 7 April 2017

No Smartphone? No Problem!

'Did you see Shannon's recent snapchat story?'
'Have I shown you what Lewis sent me last night?'
'Oh my gosh, you must have seen what Max posted on his Instagram!'

It's gotten to a point where I'm so confused that people still ask me these kinds of questions. I am proud to say that I do not own a smartphone and take pleasure in knowing absolutely nothing about everything as far as gossip is concerned. Granted, I do like to have the occasional Facebook stalk to see what people I was friends with five years ago are up to (guilty as charged!) but I'm pretty oblivious when it comes to who did what on social media.

I used to have an iPhone before I downgraded to something my friends won't even let me call a brick. Apparently bricks are heavy, so my phone is more of a tile. Charming! Ditching the smartphone has also resulted my abandoning the use of the majority of my social media accounts which seems to have upset my friends more than it has upset me. I love the fact that I can go out somewhere with my friends or with my family and not be interrupted by a text message. I also love the fact that I am not too easy to get hold of and people can't just message me for the sake of it. I realise that that sounds absolutely awful, but please hear me out...

When I used apps like Facebook Messenger on my phone, people from my school (who may I add, would never have the guts to speak to me in person) would start messaging me none stop. I think that this is absolutely ridiculous. What's the point in being friends with somebody when they can't even look you in the eye outside of the internet?

Social media has made life all to convenient for people. I understand that there is a great list of advantages to using it (for one, it has allowed me to publish this post!) but far too many people are hiding behind it.

That's just one of the reasons why I'm happy to not have a smartphone. None of my friends agree with my reasonings but I hope somebody reading this might. I don't need to know what's going on in other people's lives to be happy. I don't need to update my Facebook status every two minutes to be happy. I definitely don't need to know how long it will take me to walk from A to B and which is my best route to be happy. 

It'd be interesting to hear some different views on the topic. Do you have a smartphone? Would you ever consider ditching it?

Health and happiness,
Marti xxx