Friday, 7 September 2018

Iron sharpens iron

Sometimes it can take a really long time to find the right people
and other times it doesn't. 

It can be really hard to feel like you're in a place where nobody has the same morals as you or that you have nobody pouring into you. Our instinct is to find people who love us and who we can grow with but sometimes these people don't appear out of nowhere. This is something that I think a lot of us have felt, and it really isn't nice. 

This post has been inspired by a talk I heard on the issues of our generation. One (of many things) that stuck was the way she described us as being disciples of the people we follow on social media. It's honestly one of the truest things I've ever heard. The people we 'follow' have such an impact on our lives, and a lot of the time we don't even notice. 

Whether you're at school, work, college, or Pluto, here are the top three things to look for in friends made of iron:

  1. Non-judgment: You want your friends to love you unconditionally, and if they judge you based on your mistakes, they're not the friends that want to see you grow.
  2. Honesty: Too many times people hide how they really feel and what they really think. If your friends are honest with you, both positively and negatively, you're setting yourself up for a relationship of growth.
  3. Trust: Being honest requires a lot of vulnerability, so it's important to know that your friend values you enough to make you feel safe when you open up.
What are your top three things to look for in a friendship/fellowship? 

Lots of love,
Marti xxx

Friday, 24 August 2018

What's going on?

Things seem to have a habit of getting really busy. I feel as though the last time I sat down to think about it, I was sitting my GCSEs and praying for a time where I'd be able to do the things I wanted to. This Summer has honestly flown so quickly, and I just haven't had the time or the clarity to fit in the time to write anything. Today's Sunday and it's the bank holiday weekend. I'm going to do my best to sit down for an hour or so and update you on what's going on. I want to be completely raw and honest because I haven't had the chance to write exactly how I'm feeling for a long time. Things are good, and I've had so many experiences lately, but I'm struggling a little with making time for everything and everyone. 

I broke up for Summer late June and almost expected to have all this time in my hands. For about two weeks I'd wake up early(ish) to sit out in the sunshine and draw, or paint, or read...what a life right? I'd still go to small groups and drama in the evening and even went on a few walks and a run in between. I had my prom, which I wrote a post about and then NCS rolled around. Don't get me wrong: I had an incredible time, but it feels as though I've missed a lot back home during those four weeks away. I feel like I've neglected my friends, my church, my family, my groups and my work to name a few. 

I'm finding it really difficult to balance things. I know that I have a lot of commitments, but I know that I wouldn't be where I am now without them. I'm one of those weirdos who thrives off chaos and not having a single empty day on the diary. It makes coming back from a long break from them really difficult. I've got friends who I'm used to seeing multiple times a week who I haven't seen in months. It honestly makes me feel like the worst person in the universe. One of them joked that I was leading a 'double life', which though I know wasn't intended to hurt me, actually did. I know that you can never please everyone, but that doesn't mean I'll stop trying to. I'm working my way back into things, but now I have the added commitment of a full-time job (I'll explain more later) I'm extremely grateful to have two days off a week, which I am able to spend with the people who matter most. The thing that I'm struggling with most at the moment is church and knowing where to be. I'm stuck between two amazing places with even better people, but don't want to hop between the two. I'm trying to find a place to be planted, but don't want to leave anybody or anything behind. This is something that I'm working on.

Aside from that, I've started my apprenticeship and really love what I'm doing. The girls are so lovely and I feel as though I've learned so much in such a small space of time. I picked my exam results up from school on Thursday and am pleased with the work I put in. I opened them on my own because that's how I felt I needed to, but thank goodness my English teacher came over straight afterward. If I don't miss anything else about school; I will definitely miss our crazy English and Media lessons haha. As for anything else, I think we're mostly caught up. My head feels as though it's going 50mph, which is why I'm trying to get back to writing again. It's a way of clearing my thoughts and putting things into perspective. I'm hoping that by the next time I sit down to write a blog post (which will def be in the near future and hopefully with some pretty pictures of Brighton), things will be a lot calmer and that things piece back together. 

Wishing you all a clear headspace
Lots of love,
Marti xxx